Migraine

Just in case you are having a rough day, here is a stress management technique recommended in all the latest psychological journals. the funny thing is (see there it is again) that it really does work and will make you smile.
1.) picture yourself lying on your stomach on a warm rock that hangs out over a crystal clear stream.
2.) picture yourself with both your hands dangling in the cool running water.
3.) Birds are sweetly singing in the cool mountain air.
4.) No one knows your secret place.
5.) You are in total seclusion from that hectic place called the world.
6.) The soothing sound of a gentle waterfall fills the air with a cascade of serenity.
7.) The water is so crystal clear that you can easily make out the face of the person you are holding underwater.


Last month I almost lost it... I mean went crazy kind of lost it.
The stress of my job and lack of not spending the time I wanted with my kids was a killer for me.
So I went into my boss's office a few days later and was so worked up I cried. (I HATE doing that) But I needed to show and express to him that even though I kick ass at my job, some support would be nice or I will most likely end up quitting. I felt good after that and I have also implemented a strong testament to stop worrying or thinking about work on my weekends and after hours (Kind of hard when I get a call or text from the boss) but I try. See I am the personal assistant and processor to my boss. I tried to move from that roll into a more self sufficient loan officer roll but he wont let go of me (I see this as a compliment of course because he needs me) Since then, I have had co-workers out and I have not only been doing his job, my job, but theirs as well. I'm at the overwhelmed stage again. I work in the home-loan industry and despite the rumors, we are still full steam ahead and I am under water in loans and work.
Just this morning my boss suggested I close my office door to get some work caught up on and make my phone calls and stuff. The funny thing is (there it is again) He is the only one bugging me!! He has called me 3 times and emailed me 4 times in a matter of 10 minutes. What a joke!!!
And my boiling over point this morning was him telling me how to close a loan. I am doing a home loan for a girlfriend of mine. She happens to be buying a newly constructed home from the exact same company (builder) that he is listed as the preferred lender. The thing is she is MY referral and its "my" loan to work on. So he is trying to tell me how I am suppose to process, submit and where to close this loan!! Oh wait, that's my job! I am steaming!!! Just because he is listed as the preferred lender doesn't mean he gets them all. In the end a client can choose who they will work through for financing and since it is my girlfriend she has chosen me. I feel like he is trying to downsize me and that because this builder means everything to him that I might just not be good enough to do this one. Normally I would blow this off... but when this happens more and more than I get frustrated. It is as if my talk with him earlier about needing his support just got filed with the don't give-a-shit stuff.

Okay I had to get that out and when a co-worker sent me the above advise it was totally applying to me today!