To Love and Honor

How about to be Adored... respected...
I have been thru enough in my relationships to know what I want, and lets face it... most women suck at expressing this want in the right way to our husbands, boyfriends and significant others. We have to literally come out and tell them exactly what we want, they don't figure it out with our "helpful hints"... after all they are human and just men (not downsizing men... really, but admit half of the male population if not more falls into that). But coming out and telling you ruins the way we as women want our breath taken away in surprise. There is nothing to go back and share with our girlfriends or co-workers about this awesome person they know and love.
For me and I think the majority of women it doesn't need to cost much, because the thought of having a guy do something for us without being asked or told is HUGE.

I have a co-worker who went on vacation for 2 1/2 weeks with her husband to Italy and Greece. Kick ass jealous am I.
When she returns with her picture's, adorable wardrobe and gorgeous tan.
We all assumed that she was spoiled and adored to the hilt by her husband. They have been married for 10 yrs and the trip alone would make most women envious.
So as I lean in to hear the romantic walk on the beach, dinners, and gondola ride stories I hear a different story, I see her face turning pink and tears forming in the corner of her eyes. She confesses that while the trip was fun and most certainly an amazing memory that it wasn't romantic in the least. I try and fetch more information from her asking her if she realized they have nothing in common by spending that much time together. She deflates that instantly insisting that they have a ton in common, but that the entire trip was like she was with her brother. They got along really great, but there was not a romantic dinner to be had. A fancy dinner in a fancy restaurant in an amazing city yes, but not one I love you. Sex yes, but not love-making.
Just again today She was telling me how much she hates her brother in law, and not that the guy is a jerk or anything, but because he adores her sister to the ends of the earth and she is absolutely jealous that her husband doesn't do that for her, so she has opted to hate the guy for doing exactly what she wants for herself. I suggested she talk to her husband, tell him these things. But she says she cant, she isn't sure it will come out right. Sad, I know.
So as I watch these 2 crumble because one is oblivious to the wants of the other and the other remains silent and miserable, I see something happening in their future that probably should not have ever happened if she would say something and he took her wants into consideration.
I have someone who wants to adore me, respect, love and honor me... I am hesitant to take it though. There was a past already that spelled disaster and now somehow I am suppose to think it will be different.
One never knows what they had until it is gone.